Have you ever wondered why some people find it easy to quit while others find it difficult?
Why are some ex-smokers happy while others feel deprived?
What are you doing differently?
What happy non-smokers have in common
Over the years, my team and I have interviewed thousands of smokers and ex-smokers from around the world and from diverse backgrounds to find the patterns that make it easy or difficult for people to quit.
And happy non-smokers who find it easy to quit have one thing in common.
And it is NOT:
- How much you smoke or how long you have been smoking
- About how much stress you have in your life
- How much willpower they think they have
- Or their physical addiction to nicotine. Because anyone who’s been nicotine-free for 5 days or more is done with nicotine addiction. However, there are millions of people who relapse and crave cigarettes even after nicotine withdrawal is over.
What happy non-smokers have in common is that they do overcame her mental addiction.
Mental addiction is how much you think you must smoke, how it makes you feel, and how deeply ingrained it is in your life.
This is how happy non-smokers slow down with their cigarettes. They realize that they are better off without smoking and they no longer want to be restricted by their addiction.
Yes, they have tough moments but they know one cigarette equals a thousand and it just isn’t worth it for them because it’s not a good place to be addicted.
3 Ways To Know If You Can Easily Find Exiting
Let me show you three ways in which you can tell when you are mentally free from smoking and you will find it easy to quit.
If you find that you are not doing these three things, use this article as a guide so that you can do things differently in the future and find it easy to quit.
1. How to deal with your wistful voice
If you are addicted to nicotine or anything else, you have a wistful voice. Or a wistful spirit. Think of this wistful spirit as a miserable and needy creature that only wants its precious nicotine.
And the wistful mind communicates with you in the form of a thought. It will tell you anything to make you smoke!
Cravings are just positive thoughts about smoking that create positive feelings about smoking. Desiring thoughts create the desire for cigarettes.
Thoughts like “I need a cigarette now” or “A cigarette would make me feel better” or “Just one puff doesn’t matter”. Every smoker has these wistful thoughts.
But when you are mentally free from smoking, you can deal with these thoughts.
And there are many ways to do this.
You can ignore them. Imagine someone is talking to you and you don’t want to hear from them. When the wistful mind tells you, “You need a cigarette now,” just ignore it and say, “Okay, I heard you. Bye”.
Challenge these thoughts. When the wistful mind tells you, “I just need a cigarette,” think to yourself, “Do I really need it?”
Mindfully let the thoughts pass. Or replace them. Here I explain how one can overcome emotional desires.
What you don’t do when it comes to your emotional need is act on it or believe the longing thought.
Remember that a wistful spirit is talking to you. This gives you that Power and choice not to respond to that thought.
This is what it feels like when you find it easy to stop.
And none of the common methods teach you how to be mentally free from smoking or how to deal with your wistful voice.
That’s why you have difficulty quitting when using nicotine substitutes, vaping, or pills without working on your mental addiction.
If you get a cold turkey, gradually stop taking herbs or natural remedies, and don’t work on your mental addiction, you will have difficulty quitting.
If you do hypnosis without consciously working on your mental addiction, you will find it difficult. But when you quit smoking first, you will find it easy to quit.
And when you are mentally no longer addicted to smoking, do not be afraid, irritated, or deprived, or be jealous of other people’s smoking.
Because if cigarettes are out of the question for you, nicotine withdrawal symptoms won’t even bother you. Because the mind is free and the mind affects the body.
Although most people are concerned about the symptoms of withdrawal, withdrawal is no worse than a cold and can actually be good for you.
2. How you think about smoking
There is this misconception that being mentally free from smoking and having no desire to smoke means that one never thinks about smoking. That’s not the case.
The truth is, right after quitting, you think more about smoking because your brain is biased.
But Thinking is not lacking.
What matters is As You think about smoking.
If you are mentally addicted and you are having a hard time quitting smoking, think that smoking is what you want right now. Otherwise, something bad will happen to you.
You will have a nervous breakdown, feel stressed, or irritable.
But when you are mentally free from smoking and find it easy to quit, you see smoking as something you used to do and choose to stop doing it.
And you see cravings only as thoughts and memories – without the compulsion to react to these thoughts.
During the Vietnam War in 1971, 20% of US soldiers were addicted to heroin. So the government created an organization called the Special Action Office of Drug Abuse Prevention to track down and help these soldiers on their return to the United States.
And they found that only 5% of these soldiers returned to heroin within one year of their return and 12% within three years.
For example, 90% of heroin addicts basically quit overnight. No withdrawals, no privations. This is an incredible success rate, especially for heroin – one of the worst addictions.
How did these soldiers achieve that?
Because when they got home they changed their surroundings and their reasons for using them disappeared. They changed everything: how they saw their addiction, their context, their attitudes, and their routine.
So how you see things, how you think about your addiction, determines whether it is easy for you to quit.
3. You are not using willpower
What is the difference between willpower and mind power? Between willpower and overcoming mental addiction? How do you know you are not using willpower to quit smoking?
If you use willpower, you want to smoke, you will see an advantage in smoking, but you will have to refuse the cigarette you want.
But when you’re mentally free from smoking just say I don’t do this anymore. You talk yourself out of smoking.
If you advise against smoking, you don’t need willpower to stop smoking.
Because think about it. Do you need willpower not to eat rat poison, ammonia, or acetone?
Of course not!
Why? Because they’re harmful and disgusting chemicals.
Well, tobacco contains arsenic, which is used in rat poison, ammonia, which is used in toilet cleaners, and acetone, which we use to remove nail polish. And the only reason you want to smoke is to not try these chemicals. You want to smoke because you think it will offer you something. That is the mental addiction.
So if you see the poison, a sum of chemicals, being smoked, you don’t want it anymore. So you don’t need to use willpower to resist, as there is nothing you can resist.
Some people find it easy to quit while others find it difficult because those who find it easy overcome their mental addictions.
And you know that you are done with mental addiction …:
- the way you deal with your wistful voice.
- because you think about smoking.
- and because you are not using willpower. Instead, advise against smoking.
Hope this has been helpful and has shown you a way in which to move forward.
As I mentioned earlier, we’ve interviewed thousands of smokers and ex-smokers, so we got what the people who happily and successfully quit did right, right, and put it in a method that is easy for everyone can stop.
This method is the CBQ method. The CBQ method has helped thousands of smokers around the world. It’s the same method I talk about in my TED talk, and it helps you overcome mental addiction and find quitting simply because you are in control of your mind.
The best way to get started is with the basic video of the CBQ method.
The basic video gives you an overview of your smoking cessation journey from start to finish. So this is for you if you’re just getting started quitting and need a plan, or if you’ve already quit and want to make sure you stay on track.
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