Step 10: “We continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong we immediately admitted it.”
Whether you are following the 12 Steps from Alcoholics Anonymous (AA), Narcotics Anonymous (NA), Al-Anon, or any other program, step 10 is possibly one of the least popular of all 12 steps. Why? It’s just not fun to be wrong and then admit it.
But without this step, the progress towards recovery may not only stop, but actually lose ground. Here we talk about some of the benefits of step 10, as well as how you can incorporate it into your daily life.
12 steps defined
According to Alcoholic Anonymous, the 12 steps are as follows:..
- We admitted that we were powerless over alcohol – that our lives had become unmanageable.
- Came to believe that a force greater than ourselves could make us healthy again.
- We have chosen to surrender our will and our lives to the care of God as we understand him.
- Made a searching and fearless moral inventory of us.
- Admitted to God, to ourselves and to another person, the exact nature of our injustice.
- We were completely ready to let God remove all of these character flaws.
- He humbly asked him to remove our shortcomings.
- Made a list of people we’d harmed and got ready to make amends for them all.
- If possible, such people will be redeemed straight away, unless doing so would hurt them or others.
- Continuing the personal inventory and if we were wrong, admitted it immediately.
- Seeked through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, and only for the knowledge of His will for us and the strength to pray for it.
- After experiencing a spiritual awakening as a result of these steps, we tried to convey this message to the alcoholics and to practice these principles in all of our affairs.
What is step 10?
In step 10, the personal inventory relates to emotional disorders that may cause a person to return to drug or alcohol abuse. Monitoring these disorders on a daily basis – and taking inventory on a daily basis – is an important part of recovery.
Step 10 helps keep the spiritual home clean. All people and are obliged to make mistakes and errors. Solving the problem solves the problem quickly. Instead of burdening your conscience or building yourself up to achieve greater consequences, the error is corrected immediately and the problem is nipped in the bud.
Nobody likes to admit to being wrong, but it is absolutely necessary to maintain spiritual progress in recovery.
Benefits of step 10
Step 10 is another process that may seem difficult to tackle on the surface, but in reality it is as beneficial to the one who admits wrong as it is to the person who has done wrong.
By recognizing mistakes immediately and taking responsibility for them, it is prevented that situations lead to resentment and anger, which can become real problems.
Suppose you say something insensitive or raw and as soon as it pops out of your mouth you realize that it was not the right thing to say to that person. As suggested in step 10, immediately apologize and tell the person that you were wrong and that you should never have said it.
Then you can walk away knowing that you did your part to get it right. If the other person wants to hold on to it and stay angry about it, it is their problem, not yours.
The steps are designed to help you make progress. In the end, you apologized more for your spiritual benefits than for your benefits.
Tips and strategies
Here are some practical ways you can apply Step 10 to everyday life:
Admit when you’re wrong. Trying to quickly try to correct an injustice can keep your spiritual home clean and prevent the ego from getting in the way of step 10.
Take a daily inventory. Set aside time each day to meditate and reflect on your day – both the good and the bad. Here are some questions to ask yourself:..
- Have you been dishonest or angry?
- Did you say or do something that warrant an apology?
- Was I worried about yesterday or tomorrow?
- Have I allowed myself to be obsessed with anything?
- Have I allowed myself to get too hungry, angry, lonely, or tired?
- Am I suffering from physical, mental, or spiritual problems?
- What steps can you take to do better tomorrow?
- .What do I have to be thankful for today?
A word from Verywell
Like any part of a 12-step program, Step 10 requires dedication as you work every day to take stock, admit when you are wrong, and be the best you are on the path to lasting recovery.
If you or a loved one is struggling with substance use or addiction problems, contact the National Substance Abuse and Mental Health Authority (SAMHSA) helpline at 1-800-662-4357 Information on support and treatment facilities in your area.
You can find additional mental health resources in our National Helpline Database.